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I broke down and emailed BFAS again today to ask how long they thought we would wait (I am trying not to be too annoying by constantly asking for an update). Now if you haven't been following along here we were told "instant referral to 1 month" when we turned in our dossier late November...edited homestudy recieved to complete dossier on December 2nd. Then when I emailed to check in on December 15th I was told "Likely 1 month tops but it is likely you will received pictures much earlier than that". We were told it was headed off on December 12th....then December 19th. So I have since been waiting by my computer (apparently foolishly) hoping that we would receive a referral. Over 2 Weeks ago Agitu responded to my email that they have children waiting in our age group. Again pointing to the fact that the quoted 1 month wait might hold true.
So the response today from BFAS:
"I would imagine it would be some time yet for a referral for you. I will let you know when I feel we are getting closer to that time. I know this is not what you want to hear, but it is important to me to be honest with our families so that they do not sit by the phone or computer."
My very frustrated overly emotional response: I wish they were honest from the get go. I reread my previous emails to make sure I didn't have the wrong idea and was being overly hopeful..and I feel like I had the right level of expectation from the information that was given to me from BFAS. I emailed again to ask how long: weeks? or months? I will keep you posted. I really am becoming very bitter....not to mention another bundle of frustrated emotion.
I broke down and emailed BFAS again today to ask how long they thought we would wait (I am trying not to be too annoying by constantly asking for an update). Now if you haven't been following along here we were told "instant referral to 1 month" when we turned in our dossier late November...edited homestudy recieved to complete dossier on December 2nd. Then when I emailed to check in on December 15th I was told "Likely 1 month tops but it is likely you will received pictures much earlier than that". We were told it was headed off on December 12th....then December 19th. So I have since been waiting by my computer (apparently foolishly) hoping that we would receive a referral. Over 2 Weeks ago Agitu responded to my email that they have children waiting in our age group. Again pointing to the fact that the quoted 1 month wait might hold true.
So the response today from BFAS:
"I would imagine it would be some time yet for a referral for you. I will let you know when I feel we are getting closer to that time. I know this is not what you want to hear, but it is important to me to be honest with our families so that they do not sit by the phone or computer."
My very frustrated overly emotional response: I wish they were honest from the get go. I reread my previous emails to make sure I didn't have the wrong idea and was being overly hopeful..and I feel like I had the right level of expectation from the information that was given to me from BFAS. I emailed again to ask how long: weeks? or months? I will keep you posted. I really am becoming very bitter....not to mention another bundle of frustrated emotion.
8 comments:
Jenny said...
(((big hugs)))!! I'm so sorry, friend. Hang in there.
Chocolate and peanut butter make a good "I'm miserable, anxious, just want my referral!" food...or so I hear.
Sha Zam- said...
I'm not with your group, but I have heard something specific from others from your agency that is good news. They are waiting to give out referrals until the child is paper ready for court. That is good news. If this is true, that means they are with your child and making sure you'll get through court. Your agency seems to have very fast referral to court and court to travel times so you are probly closer than it feels.
Remember "Objects in mirror are closer than they appear" my fingers are crossed and praying for you.
Amy B. said...
So sorry to hear of your frustrations and disappointments. I hope there is good news for you really soon.
Christina said...
Ugh. I'm so sorry! What on earth does "some time yet" even mean? Let's hope Shannon is correct and they are just trying to get you closer to court...Many hugs your way!
jodes said...
*big hug* I'm new to your blog, but my heart hurts for you. Here's hoping for some amazing news in the very near future.
Kimberley said...
I agree....SERIOUSLY.....what does "some time yet" mean?.....grrrr.....oh wait now I am even complaining in the comments section!
PreSchoolMama said...
I am so sorry I hope you find something out soon.
AnnMarie & Nick said...
I love that you are complaining in the comments section. I don't blame you for being frustrated at all- vent away!